Emotional detachment is helpful in divorce
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People going through a divorce are likely all too familiar with the high emotions that run through the situation. Overwhelming feelings such as anger and hurt can cloud judgment and make it incredibly difficult to make rational, thoughtful decisions.

Although it may be very challenging to keep emotions in check when it comes to divorce, there are many benefits to making this vital effort. Here are a few things to reflect upon when dealing with emotions during the divorce process.

Anger leads to bad decisions.

Spouses will have to make a wide range of critical decisions regarding their future and that of their children if they are parents. Maintaining a rational and emotionally detached perspective when undertaking these decisions is crucial. Making decisions out of anger can lead to bad decisions that may be more difficult to correct later.

An article in The Atlantic cited research on how anger increases risk-taking and diminishes people's ability to accurately assess those risks' danger levels. The last situation in which someone should take uncalculated and dangerous risks is during divorce proceedings. A rational, level-headed approach that manages to put anger aside will result in more balanced and satisfying outcomes in the long run.

Divorce options

Staying calm may seem impossible, no matter how important it is. However, to neutralize the hard feelings, the couple can work with a mediator who helps them identify what they genuinely need and want. Mediation can help reduce strife and acrimony between the couple, leading to more positive and collaborative decision-making. If sitting down together at the negotiation table is too tricky, even with the mediator present, a couple may still be successful by meeting with the mediator separately and avoiding face-to-face confrontations.

A mediated divorce can help a couple moderate their emotional responses and work toward a solution that will serve them effectively in the future.

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